Confused

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Okay, so let's say, for example. I like someone, right, and I would not categorize as love quite yet, because, well I don't believe in the kind of love that only exists between one person just yet. Maybe I'm wrong about that. But I guess I can kind of sense the other person liking me too, but I don't know why he hasn't confronted me about it yet. And then just yesterday, there came another guy in the picture. I'm pretty sure he likes me too, and I'm afraid I like him too, but not as much as the first guy. So, what should I do?

  • útcưng

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • hi there Lusti!!

    You've been liking the first guy for some time now...From my point of view, you like him alot. The second guy, he's the one that just got in the picture since yesterday. You said yóure afraid you like him, but not as much as the other... i think you'll be happier with the first guy. Do you talk to them? It would be alot simpler if you do. You can choose one of them một cách sáng suốt hơn. As for now, just take your time to get to know them better to discover your own feelings...
    I remember liking this guy when I was 16... We were close friends... Until now, I never told him about it. I wish I can tell him one day...

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Hello!
    Awww... too late for regrets now eh Kim? I know I will be too later in life if I don't tell him but I seriously can't find it in my heart to confront him about it. And yes, all your assumptions are accurate. I do like the first one better, but the second has been in and out of the picture, do you know what I'm saying? And I do associate more with the second guy than the first guy, yet I'm not as attracted to the second guy as I am to the first and it confuses me. They both are at the same level of hottness, yet it's more like, I don't know what it is but I like the one that doesn't interact with me as much as the second one. Do you know what I mean?

  • útcưng

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Hi!
    Liking a person is not a simple thing, not to mention 2 at the same time! Gosh! You're so much like me Giggling Although it gives you alternatives but it makes your path blurry. You must be torn between them. However, I think the reason that you are more attracted to the first guy is that: you dónt associate with him as much as the second guy. Everyone loves a mystery. You don't know very much about him, you are drawn to him. Love is not merely attraction, it also about the comfortable feeling when you're with him.
    About the second guy, what do you mean when you said he has been in and out of the picture? Let me guess: you like him, then you like him not, then you like him ... If I guessed right, then your feelings with him is not as deep and as đậm đà ...But my opinion could be wrong. Maybi it means that you can't let go of your feelings for him.
    There are no rules in love. So I can not give you a specific solution. However, if I were in your shoes, I would interact with them more and find out which one is right for me. Then go get my man :)

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Hey,
    Lol, that's kind of accurate about the second one being in and out of the picture. I also think that I don't like the second one as much because I know for a fact I can have him... Do you know what I mean? We always flirt around and he makes it really obvious that he likes me. I guess it's just a game for me, love, because I want something (in this case someone) I can't have quite yet or I mean I have to put some effort into it. But I don't really know what I want right now. I guess, I kind of hate love in a sense that I would play around with people's emotions. I know it's wrong but I guess I'm using it for revenge. I don't know, but I know that I am feeling something and it's disturbing me that I can't quite distiniguish that unknown factor and I guess I need help figuring it out. I don't know if I make sense but I need your opinion on this one.
    BTW, I really don't know anything about the second guy and I am only attracted to him because of how he looks and the forceful gaze he has when he looks at me. It's really charming and interesting, and apparently I must have an affinity toward his stare. I don't even think I like him, but I know that I do have a certain feeling, but I just don't know what it is.

  • útcưng

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Cô bé Lusti!

    Your last paragraph meant to describe the first guy right? It would only makes sense that way.
    You're in a difficult situation. There was a time in my life when I wasn't sure of the things I want. But one thing I know for sure: everyone wants to be loved and to be happy. For me, it wasn't until last Christmas that I knew exactly what I want in life. I just want to assure you that it's ok to be confused.
    One thing I must warn you: don't play with anyone's emotion, Lusti, because you might get hurt during the process; it's not beneficial to him nor you. ok, if one day, the second guy has a gf and he completely got over you, would you feel sad? If you don't feel any sadness at all, then you have eliminated the guỵ
    The intense emotions and attraction you feel for the first guy is something to cherish. There are not many people in the future thaqt would make you feel quite the same. The older you are, the less likeli you will encounter that feeling (my case). I think your heart thiên vị the first guy. Don't you think so?

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Your last paragraph meant to describe the first guy right? It would only makes sense that way.

    Lol you're right, I typed it wrong... hah I didn't even catch that mistake. I know it's wrong to play with people's emotion but it's fun and addictive, j/k. I actually don't think I would care if the second guy gets a girlfriend or not because he just doesn't seem to affect me as much as the first guy would. I would cry, no I don't thin I would cry, if the first guy gets a girlfriend, I'll just be really disappointed if he can just blow me off and forget about me for another girl. But then that'll just increase my bitter and cynical view toward love and it'll cure all pains that would come my way later in life.
    But the first guy, I don't know what is going on. He's like, just there, and that's all he is. I guess I understand now, that I should learn to cherish and appreciate what I have, but it's hard when I'm not quite sure if it even exists at all. It seems as if it's all just an illusion- that it'll all end and gradually fade one day. Yet, how selfish is that thought, to know that all will end because nothing is forever and eternity no longer exists.
    I feel like such a bitter person. Here, I'l tell you the full story. The first guy used to like me last year but I played too hard to get and that eventually backfired. I only did that I guess so that he would respect me once he gets me... ya know. But then he started liking another girl and I deleted him from my life. And in no time yet he's back in it this year. I don't know how far he got with that girl, I know it's not very far, they never dated- ot at least not to my knowledge. Here goes back to the whole wanting what you can't have ordeal again. It's a bad mistake and I don't know if he will forgive me for that. Yeah, actually I know he will, but I guess he's hesitating... or reluctant, for whatever the reason I don't know. I think that's the problem. But I don't want to feel like it's my responsibility to fix it. Am I a bad person? And Tuyen, if you read this... DON'T REPLY and DELETE it from your memory. (A little memo to my nosy sister)

  • útcưng

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • It's not your fault for playing hard to get, that's what us girls do, right? So, you need not blame yourself. If he was a patient guy, he could have had you. His actions indicates that he understand nothing about girls and that he is not an ambitious person. If at first he doesn't succede, he gotta try again.
    I don't think you have mastered your "playing hard to get" skills yet. At least you gotta leave him some hints once in awhile so he knows how you feel towards him. I don't think it is your fault, you don't need to be forgiven. Think of it as a misunderstanding. Now, if he still likes you and dying to tell you how he feels, he would be very afraid of rejection. Who wouldn't? No, it is not your responsibility to fix the whole situation, but you have the power to change it. I mean, you don't have to directly confront him or anything, just drop some hints by actions or words. Soon enough, things will work out.

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Lol Gotcha ;) Thanks Kimi

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • KIMI!!!! Where are you. I need help. Mental help. I thought I got it but I don't. I feel like I'm living in a world of illusions- that nothing seems to truly exist and that everything is simply a figment of my imagination. How can you help someone that's on the verge of giving up on love?


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