• Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Ooo KumDung, you gave me a good idea for a topic...

    Why is it that one would chose to suffer after a break-up? I mean surely, one would imagine that it's just a break-up, that you must depart from the person whom you've associated with for a certain time period. And it all ended. Isn't that all a break-up is?

  • útcưng

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • wow good question you came up with. I've never thought about such thing before.
    I think the reasons one chooses to suffer after a break-up (I think people unconciousli choose to suffer, they don't know they're choosing it) is:
    1) Imagine you lost something. Because it's yours, you must feel you're at a loss... Breaking up with someone means one looses a person, a relationship that one plant her hopes and dreams in.
    2) One feels like one should be suffering. I think it's possible. "If I really love him/her, then I should be suffering" or "I'm human too. I should be feeling hurt."
    3) One still haven't given up on the relationship. "If he sees me suffering, maybe he will cảm động and come back to me." (khổ nhục kế) Giggling
    I don't know if I make sense. What do you think Lusti?

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • I'm thinking that one chooses to suffer because one needs attention for the pain one believes one is enduring. I don't know why but I know that whenever I have a problem, I always would like to have someone to consult that problem with, and what better way to make myself a victim of the situation then to show that I am emotional injured.
    According to your second thesis, one is choosing to suffer because one thinks that its appropriate? Doesn't that make suffering a show? I mean, its just to prove to others that one has feelings and emotions, right?
    What do you think of my opnion?

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