What is it that you see? Love or Lust?

  • Sw3et2DaMaxs

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Do you believe in love at first sight? Or just talking to someone you hardly know and you feel like as you spark up a conversation with that person, you find that, that is the one person you been yearning and waiting for all your life and you can't wait to be with him/her and spend every waking moment by their side or you would go mad crazy if you don't at least talk to him/her, even if it was only to be a day or so? I am a dreamer I am a believer. I believe in fate, destiny and all should follow their dreams and heart, even if it is the most obscure notion. By doing this, you learn from your mistakes, even if you have a habit of repeating it over and over again. It's life. Things are made out to be perfect, even if you think there is nothing will ever be perfect.
    I have a few friends who believed they found that they have found their "match". Only to realise that they are only looking for what is not there, they build up so many things in their head, that their expectation would only hurt either that one particular person or themselves. I had a friend name Ben* (we're still close friends) who dated a girl name Veronica*(a friend of mine). Last year she broke up with Sam* because she cheated on him, ever since then she had been moping after him. You see, Ben* was her first boyfriend until she broke his heart and told him she was in love with Sam*, it was a big mistake, because he never really loved her anyway. They basically cheated on each other, thinking that they loved one another and so on, I just think it's just a mist of lust. She couldn't let go the fact that they broke up. Ben* asked her out a month ago (December 2000), after when she broke Fred's (a friend) heart. All she goes on about is Sam*this and Sam* that. Telling Ben* that she is in love with him, but her heart belongs to Sam*. Ben* asked me what did I think about the whole situation and I simply told him, "It's not right what she is doing to you. She has to realise that all this talk about Sam* is hurting you, talk to her, tell her to let go, he moved on why can't she?" A few weeks later after their one-month anniversary he broke up with her, because he couldn't take the Sam situation anymore.
    I believe that by giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! So don't expect love in return just wait for it to grow in their heart. Don't rush things, it only causes pain and heartache. Think before you jump to conclusion it wouldn't only break their heart, it would also break yours along the line.
    Before I end this entry I just want to add: The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had. As Ronan Keaton once sang: "The smile on your face lets me know that you need me. There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me. The touch of your hand says you'll catch me whenever I fall. You say it best... when you say nothing at all"

    dan nguyen

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • I was told that when someone loves someone else with all their heart- they should NEVER expect love in return. Because then that is no longer love. When you start developing selfish reasons in your head about love- such as, what if he doesn't love me, should I still love him- then the outcome of the soon-to-be relationship would not be as strong and marvelous as if you didn't think about it in the first place. A person that knows how to love doesn't expect anything, doesn't wish to receive anything, but knows that all they can do is give, and giving is what they do.
    Love at first sight is the sure sign of infatuation. Love that takes time to develop is love. You cannot love someone you don't know, but you can be infatuated with someone for their physical appearance. I see people confusing love with infatuation all the time- and despite what I say- people will still contradict me about being in "love" when it is just a mere sign of lust. I know love is really hard to create and develop- it doesn't pop out of no where. It takes time, and a lot of it too.
    I don't even think I know what love is, I can't even tell if I am in love or if I am simply infatuated with someone. You want to give me advice on this one?
    Last year, when I was a sophomore, I was truly infatuated with this guy, named Michael. But he didn't like me- anymore that was. But I still was infatuated with him despite the fact he didn't like me. Then one day all of a sudden in class, I received a "j'adore vous" (it's supposed to be je t'aime, but you can't blame him, he's only had one year of French prior to writing that, it means I love you) on my paper that someone corrected. It was by Kerry. I never liked him. Until I noticed how much he paid attention to me in class. but I didn't like him, and I felt absolutely nothing. As days go by I realized my heart had a soft side for him. He's really sweet, and nice, and he has these charming blue eyes that a girl like me can get lost into. A year later, I found myself lusting over someone else and not him. Just recently I noticed still how much he notices me and my every actions in school. It was awkward- but at the same time I felt special knowing that he cared about me. But that's all he does- looks at me when I'm not looking at him. I see it from the corner of my eyes because I started noticing him. And I caught myself doing what he does- I look at him. A lot too. I like how he looks so serious when he's working. And I think I like the boy that liked me. But I'm not sure if I do. I think I do though. And yesterday, I think he was trying to make a move, and as he got nearer I turned and walked off. I never even gave him the chance, or myself.

  • na_12t

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • ok sis! Got to warn u first am not good at advicing people but here i goes... Anyway what u saying is that u have some experience in infatuated with a guy, well anyway u finally felt some thing with a guy that like u. O.K this won't help a lot but all i could tell u to do is just give him a chance. Well like u said he was about to make his move but u just too freak out to stand still for a minute so he could give it a try, unstead u walk off. WOW u exactly like my friend.. I don't want to be hard on u sis, (i really sorry to say this) but when ever i c a girl doing that i think she really dumb.. U both have feeling for each other and he the one who gonna be asking u out. Even if he finally chicken out (he the dumbest boy ever) then u know that u have done something, unstead of doing nothing and make him put more effort to following u around.. Now think about it sis what u have to lose if u just stay still for a minute so he could express his feeling. U have nothing to lose. I think the only reason y u making this a big deal is that u SHY. DAmn shyness is alway the girl biggest prob! Sis just stay still for him to confront u and i guarentee in one week u will have a brand new bf.. Giggling

  • luv_yall

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • hum oh wow Miss Lustified have a problem that she can't solve Ohh my!! Giggling interesting, but i can tell u this u a beautiful girl and even if am not there to see what really happening but base on your story i'm 100% sure that he does like u, you're prob is not really hard to solve just remember to stay in one place so he can ask u out. U just afraid that all maybe Na right, u are shy. It kind of surprising! Don't be afraid he the one who gonna be doing the whole things, u just have to stay to give him a chance to respresending himself.. I don't think u would have any prob getting this boy. Just hope u have him fast.. But the bad things about u having a bf is that in MYE their wouldn''t be no one giving me or everyone else such a good advices, but oh well what best for u and what make u feel happy then that a good thing. Good luck with your relationship. ;)

  • útcưng

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Lusti!!!

    brand new guy huh? Grin I don't think you need any advice for the circumstance that you're in. You should feel special for being ađmire any love. Đó là một niềm vinh hạnh . This guy Kerry, from my point of view, sincerely likes you. But you don't like him; you said so yourself... The mixed emotions you're experiencing is just cảm động (touched)
    I think what you did (walking away when he might have had the chance to tỏ tình) is absolutely normal. I would too Rolleyes I mean, you might have been confused or might not know what to say afterwards, right?? You have just saved him from a potential heartbreak.

    Na and loveyall,

    I don't think she likes Kerry. What happiness does it bring when you are being with the one you don't like/love, right? Giving people chances are giving yourself a chance, but why take the chance when you're not sure that it's what you want? Do you agree? ;)

  • na_12t

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • hum i guess what u said is absolutely right but i dónt know she said she have infuated feeling for guys, well she đi said that she started noticing him, anyway if she really just feeling 'cảm đông' for him then just forget what i said and listene to Kimdung. If u dónt have any feeling for the guy except what u call 'cảm động for what he had did' then just forget it. Don't try to break his heart and don't broke your own heart either.. But if because u kinda have some feeling for him (real feeling) then let him express his feeling for u. But if u were feeeling nothing for him but u think this relationship between u two can have a chance then all i could said it just go for it. And if u can't decide then just think of what Kim said and don't break his heart and don't break your own.. Anyway don't mess up your grade over a simple things like that, don't get stress out, if u did u gonna mess yourself up, it not worthet. Just relax and be clam then everything gonna be find Giggling uhm two day and u hasn''t reply me who know maybe things has gone some where between u two. But hope u luck! luv u a lot and c u later sis Giggling

  • Lustify

    khoảng 2 10 năm trước
  • Hey Everyone! Thank you SO much for giving me such good advices you guys (Na_12t, Kimi, and Luv_yall (you guys are the best!! Innocent ))
    I think Kimi was most absolutely right about why I walked off. I guess I didn't want to face the situation quite so early until I could distinguish what I really wanted from what I expected should happen. I can't tell if I am doing this because I am cam dong by his chan tinh. I mean, I have never had a guy with such a sincere heart to love me. He is the sweetest gentleman in this world and I can feel it each time he opens the door for me, or help me out in class when I do stupid stuff (like when I was talking in class and the teacher called on me and I didn't even hear his question and I couldn't answer, Kerry blurted out the answer to keep the class' attention away from me and I was really grateful). I feel like if I don't like him, I am truly missing out on something special that could occur. But if I do, then I don't know if I am being true to myself.
    I am a shy person- I will admit to that. But I know that I am definitely NOT playing any games with this guy- because he is such a sweetie. I don't know, this has been dragging on for so long and I still haven't figured out what I want yet. I just wished I did.

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